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Marriage

Proverbs 18: 22
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord!"

Marriage is not 'man's' opinion, it is God's opinion. God values marriage as the most important family issue and speaks about it very strongly in both the Old and New Testament of the Holy Bible. We must take the Word of the Lord seriously about our marriages, because we are so inperfect and this is the reason why we need the Lord to help us. Just simply allowing our spouses to be themselves will contribute to making our marriages successful. In my own personal marital experiences and through many counselling sessions over the years I've often heard the word - 'SUBMISSIVENESS'.

Having spoken to many men and women, this word 'submissive' continues to be often used in a man's everyday vocabulary as a means of asserting his headship of the family home when they either feel threathened or insecure or when the woman has suddenly become the bread-winner of the marital home, due to possibly her academic background or she's business oriented, or the man being made redudant, or losing his job. But, this should not be so in accordance to the Word of God. For God made man and woman equal - co-heirs to the Body of Christ through the union of marriage.

For it states clearly in the Holy Bible in Genesis 2 v 18-24 (KJV)
18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. a woman to summit is not difficult if she is treated in the right way. 19 And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. 20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

The Holy Bible also states that a woman is the weaker vessel, not talking her down all day we should lift each other up. even though we are one flesh we must still realise that we have our differences. Trust and respect is also a very inportant issus in marriage. Some men who like to dominate or show their machoism to their spouses will often speak down to there wives as if they were slaves or doormats to be at their beck-and-call or to be trodden upon. While some women in marriage have unfortunately reversed their family-centered roles and they have been found to be the domineering party. Often this is because their partners will not simply lead in their homes but they get their wives to do everything. let love be the center of our marriage not position. the bible says Jesus made himself of no reputation - He humbled Himself.

One day God ministered me about Adam from Genesis chapter 2. It says that whatever Adam called the animals God created, that was their name. So whatever a man calls his wife, THAT IS WHAT SHE WILL BE TO HIM. The question is this - What do you call your wife? What you call her will determine the condition of your marriage. Please men take no offence..

Matthew 19 v 3-6 (KJV)
3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Ecclesiastes 5 v 4
When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools:

A marriage vow is 'till death do us part' and not 'anything else do us part'
In the name of Jesus Christ!

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